Saturday, September 18, 2010

Stand up and listen

Do you ever feel like you are in a room full of people screaming at the top of your lungs and no one is listening? That is how I feel after reading the comments on this article about surrogacy and India. Seriously people, if you are not involved in the situation, don't you have a better way to spread your negativity? Do they understand what it takes to muster up the courage to embrace a journey like this and to tell people how you are going to create your family, since it is not the least bit traditional?!? Don't they understand how the women in India seek out the clinics to pursue surrogacy to also help their life situation improve. Maybe if they got on a plane themselves, took a forever flight to India, looked around a bit and ate their own piece of humble pie as they see how other people in the world live day to day, maybe then they would think before they speak.

Surrogacy has been a topic in my life and marriage now for three years. I've defended it to the end, I've been an advocate, an educator, and gabby gab to anyone who will listen. I've dealt with the questions, the reactions, and the "are you sure you want to do this" conversations. I've stayed positive even though we have lost two pregnancies. I still support each and every one in our little "surrogacy world" whether they are from blog land or forum land. Open your eyes people and look a little closer. There is a whole world that exists that you have no clue about. And until you have experienced it, then shut it! Just shut it and keep your opinion to yourself. Who is anyone to judge another for the choices they make in life? So to all those people who say we are exploiting the poor, taking advantage of Indian women, or outsourcing a pregnancy, try listening to our stories and feeling some empathy before you open your mouth and shove your foot in it!

http://shine.yahoo.com/channel/parenting/outsourcing-pregnancy-to-india-this-is-just-the-beginning-1753055/?pg=12#comments

Thanks to all the people who supported my comment and said their peace on this article. Love, love, love my surrogacy family!!

8 comments:

The Heffernan's said...

Ditto! I have had some negative comments and can confirm that they come from ill-informed people who sit on the side of fertility where they didn't have to think twice about when/how they would have their families. Good on you.

Terry & Steve said...

Amen.

Kerrie and Mark said...

Love your strength! We continue to yell at the top of our lungs as one day we will be heard!

Mandy said...

You go Daria! I am right behind and will stand up with you to pursue your family, no mater what it takes.

You are such a strong person, and you are being heard, its not quantity it quality...

all the best!

Janell said...

Well said, Daria! I am so proud of you!

.jon said...

Daria,
At the end of the day, it's your life and you don't need to ask anyone for their approval. It's all perfectly legal and most people have no problem with any of this. You will always have the nutcakes; that will never change but you control your destiny and your family's destiny. Don't allow these people to rob you of the joy that awaits you! If they are so offended by all of this, they should book a one-way to Iran or Pakistan and begin their new lives in societies where their world view is the norm.

Amber and Brian said...

Very well said. Thank you for standing up and pointing out the truth.

hopefromtheashes said...

Amen, sister. You could not have said it any better. God bless everyone in the surrogacy process; it isn't easy!